All my life, the number 9 has followed me around. I realize that humans are programmed to look for patterns (even where there are none), but it really seems like every time I turn around I’m #9 again. Well, once again, the number pops up. According to an enneagram test, this is the core of who I am:
The way it sums up my basic motivation in life is thus: “I must be peaceful and easy to get along with to be happy.”
Is this true? Perhaps. I often find myself doing my level best to avoid conflict, make peace, and understand all sides of a situation. I think this works well with my emotional side and well as my practical inclinations. I don’t think I can be very happy if there is strife (and I certainly can’t be happy if it involves me directly!).
What are you?
Here’s a terribly simple two-part question, yet I’m hoping for not-so-simple answers. Pleasepleaseplease try not to say just what you’ve been told before. Your personal and honest answers really matter to me.
When life sucks, things don’t work out, tragedies happen, and you face enormous struggles and disappointments and brick walls at every turn…
…what does that have to do with God?
When you get the money you need, have an amazing day, find love, succeed in your goals, you find your answers, and life is just amazing…
… what does that have to do with God?
What do you think?
Belated Edit: Okay, I admit it…this is related to an entry I wrote a while back. I suppose I just can’t let a topic go.
What do you prefer when you get into a relationship?
1- Would you rather have a fun fling or a lasting relationship?
lasting, for sure. been there, done that. flings don’t work for me
2- What was your longest relationship?
about 2.5 years
3-What is your favorite personality trait?
it’s a toss-up between a sense of humor and an infectious intelligence.
4- What is the most romantic thing a significant other could do?
Not sure about “most”… but planning out a trip for the two of us would be wonderful… everything from accommodations to activities. I guess I think not caring about the details (as I usually do) would make it even more romantic.
5- When you are dating someone, what is the most important thing to you?
That we’re on the same page and communicate openly.
6- Do you like pet names (ex: baby, sweetheart…)?
Yeah, I’m a sap about this. But I don’t like things too contrived or over the top (like “honeywinkles” or “bubblybear” )
7- What is your ideal night out with a significant other?
Oh I had one of these last year. We went to church, had a dinner out, went walking along the river in the moonlight, and then saw a movie (yada yada) then we parted ways at 4AM
8- What is your ideal night in with a significant other?
In our pajamas, snacking on some good food, reading silly stories to each other, and talking about everything and anything. A good action flick wouldn’t be bad either.
9- Would you be able to tell someone you love them, even if you didn’t feel it?
I did this with my ex. He said it so early (like he exchanged “love” for “like”… it was way weird) and I felt such pressure to say it back. I didn’t want to hurt him, and I was chicken anyway, so I said it before I felt it. Learned my lesson
10- Do you like relationships that invovle serious commitments?
I’m that kind of person. I give 100% and I want it back. what can I say? Commitment doesn’t mean marriage right away or anything silly… but I like monogamy, serious intentions, and security.
11- If you ever got engaged, how would you want it to happen?
12- If you were engaged, would you want a wedding as soon as possible?
I’m a huge fan of a quick engagement. I would only wait a long time if I absolutely had to for whatever reason.
13- Do you like to talk about the future when in a serious relationship?
Yep. I’m a planner and a dreamer. It’s a fun combo
14- Do you prefer a sensitive open relationship or a strong silent type?
relationships fall into these categories? huh. I prefer vocal, open, and strong, how’s that?
15- When in a relationship do you have to have contact with your partner on a daily basis?
No, but I enjoy it. Too much contact is smothering, but I like to have my SO be a part of my life, not just an attachment I wear once a week.
16- Do you like public displays of affection?
I certainly give them… but I limit it to hand-holding, hugging, and light kisses.
17- Is there anything you won’t tolerate while in a relationship?
Mind games, abuse, rage issues, yo-yo emotions (e.g. “I like you”. “No wait, I’m confused.” “No, I like you.” “Wait, I’m not sure.”)
18- What is one thing that you value most in a relationship?
19- Would you ever be able to handle a long-distance situation?
I’ve “handled” it a few times actually. As long as it doesn’t stay that way, it can work out in the end.
20- Do you believe in moving in together before engagement or marriage?
definitely not before engagement. I most prefer after marriage.