My life was dawdling in the Narthex of Cool (NC) before, but now it’s breaking all kinds of barriers into the Inner Sanctum of Radical (ISR).

It’s the little things, really: I just scored a bluetooth headset for 50% off when it wasn’t even on sale in the first place; I’m into a totally amazing guy and may get to be his totally amazing girlfriend; Christmas with my family was great, and I adore them because they’re just as nutty as I am; I get to go to Germany in one month!  I’m becoming more gutsy and honest about how happy I am with my life changes lately; My step-sister and I are real friends which adds to the very short list of women whom I trust with my true self; I’m having one of the easiest work weeks I’ve had in months (sorry CTI, I won’t bleed overtime this week!); My college friend just got engaged; and I found a great bridesmaid dress for my sister’s wedding.

And hell, the sun was shining today.

Welcome to the ISR.

What have I done?

I can’t say no to a list!

So the rule is to “italicize” what you’ve already done…

1. Started your own blog
2. Slept under the stars
3. Played in a band
4. Visited Hawaii
5. Watched a meteor shower
6. Given more than you can afford to charity
7. Been to Disneyland
8. Climbed a mountain
9. Held a praying mantis
10. Sang a solo
11. Bungee jumped
12. Visited Paris
13. Watched a lightning storm at sea
14. Taught yourself an art from scratch
15. Adopted a child
16. Had food poisoning
17. Walked to the top of the Statue of Liberty
18. Grown your own vegetables
19. Seen the Mona Lisa in France
20. Slept on an overnight train
21. Had a pillow fight
22. Hitch hiked
23. Taken a sick day when you’re not ill
24. Built a snow fort
25. Held a lamb
26. Gone skinny dipping
27. Run a Marathon
28. Ridden in a gondola in Venice
29. Seen a total eclipse
30. Watched a sunrise or sunset
31. Hit a home run
32. Been on a cruise
33. Seen Niagara Falls in person
34. Visited the birthplace of your ancestors
35. Seen an Amish community
36. Taught yourself a new language
37. Had enough money to be truly satisfied
38. Seen the Leaning Tower of Pisa in person
39. Gone rock climbing
40. Seen Michelangelo’s David
41. Sung karaoke
42. Seen Old Faithful geyser erupt
43. Bought a stranger a meal at a restaurant
44. Visited Africa
45. Walked on a beach by moonlight
46. Been transported in an ambulance
47. Had your portrait painted
48. Gone deep sea fishing
49. Seen the Sistine Chapel in person
50. Been to the top of the Eiffel Tower in Paris
51. Gone scuba diving or snorkeling
52. Kissed in the rain
53. Played in the mud
54. Gone to a drive-in theater
55. Been in a movie
56. Visited the Great Wall of China
57. Started a business
58. Taken a martial arts class
59. Visited Russia
60. Served at a soup kitchen
61. Sold Girl Scout Cookies
62. Gone whale watching
63. Got flowers for no reason
64. Donated blood, platelets or plasma.
65. Gone sky diving
66. Visited a Nazi Concentration Camp
67. Bounced a check
68. Flown in a helicopter
69. Saved a favorite childhood toy
70. Visited the Lincoln Memorial
71. Eaten Caviar
72. Pieced a quilt
73. Stood in Times Square
74. Toured the Everglades
75. Been fired from a job
76. Seen the Changing of the Guards in London
77. Broken a bone
78. Been on a speeding motorcycle
79. Seen the Grand Canyon in person
80. Published a book
81. Visited the Vatican
82. Bought a brand new car
83. Walked in Jerusalem
84. Had your picture in the newspaper
85. Kissed a stranger at midnight on New Year’s Eve
86. Visited the White House
87. Killed and prepared an animal for eating
88. Had chickenpox
89. Saved someone’s life
90. Sat on a jury
91. Met someone famous
92. Joined a book club
93. Lost a loved one
94. Had a baby
95. Seen the Alamo in person
96. Swam in the Great Salt Lake
97. Been involved in a law suit
98. Owned a cell phone
99. Been stung by a bee

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What not to say to a dying woman

I’m going to be straight with you: You are going to die. I am going to die. We will be remembered by the legacy we leave behind and reused  by this earth as fuel to feed the powerful engine that is the cycle of life on this planet. Does this scare you? I know it frightens many to be unable to stop our mortality. We’ve invented age-defying makeup,  life support, and even an afterlife to keep us from confronting that loss of control and lack of an endless future.

But what do you say when someone is staring death in the face and not wanting to go? What do you say to a wife and mother who has just been diagnosed with cancer?

Today, for the first time in my memory, I had the chance to encourage and console someone in pain without resorting to superstitious belief or uncomfortable, scripted emptiness. In other words, I didn’t say, “I’ll pray for you,” “Miracles happen,” or “God’s will be done.” So what

When my dad was sick–and then again when he died–nobody knew what to say. Suffering was too heavy, too uncomfortable for others to dwell on.

It’s not about what you say, it’s what you do that will make the most impact.
“Two hands working can do more than a thousand clasped in prayer” (Unknown)

I received a trackback ping from this post, and I couldn’t help but read. Let me extend my heartfelt concern and hope for your family’s situation and struggle right now. My father had breast cancer, and–I can’t water it down–it was awful. But nothing so far in my life has drawn me closer to my family as a unit than that difficult time. I have never felt so much support and kinship with my fellow man than when suffering was happening in our lives.

There is so much love in the world, and so much hope to be found right here in humanity. Medicine, treatments… they are amazing tools we could never have hoped for if we as a people did not love one another. So I hope you see a lot of that care and support all around you as you go forward in this together.

All my best wishes,